5 Simple Tricks to Grow Your Confidence!

Follow my blog with Bloglovin

Hey everyone and welcome to psychotips today we're gonna learn about five simple tricks to grow your confidence  let's begin  

Conquering:

Conflict and confidence, Well they just don't go together when something seems like it could go wrong your fears often cripple your confidence if something actually does go wrong then shame and guilt can have the exact same effect because the conflict has so much of a negative potential you should avoid it at all costs.

But this mindset is keeping you from growing into a more confident person we derive the most self-esteem from our ability to overcome obstacles conquered conflicts show you exactly what you're capable of those feelings of pride and triumph will boost your performance and motivate you to tackle new challenges.


You can  easily grow your confidence by confronting and resolving small conflicts, it could be anything from an argument with a co-worker to a clash of personalities, it's important to practice handling those little conflicts effectively eventually you'll work your way up from minor issues to major ones and by then those conflicts won't seem nearly as intimidating your fears will unravel and your confidence will soar giving you the tools to handle even the rockiest situations.

Partial Objectivity :

How can someone be truly objective about their own life?.

can you really remove all personal biases from any decision? 

Most people would argue that you couldn't and they're probably right,It's impossible to make something 100% objective everything you think of, Everything you know has been influenced by something. 

In fact the person that you are is largely a product of the world around you your parents and friends shaped your personality your school molded your interests the entire framework that you use to judge, Everything comes from somewhere and this means you can never really remove yourself from any choice that you make but it doesn't hurt to try to imagine you're starting your first day at a new job, It's a higher position than you've ever had before you're determined to excel but you're nervous about making a good first impression,you want to seem strong and confident , you want your co-workers to like and respect you but all you're feeling right now is anxiety and self-doubt you're convinced that the moment you step into that office they'll see right through you they'll know exactly how scared you are, So how can objectivity help you make the ideal first impression?                

Objective thinking will train you to block out your fears, you can free yourself from that swirling vortex of doubts and uncontrollable emotions. 

Objectivity gives you a much-needed sense of control over your life because it shows you where you need to grow, however, being objective before your first day on the job will force you to change your perspective instead of constantly worrying about how others will perceive, you can reflect on how you see yourself do you think you're confident do you think you deserve their respect. 

Ultimately your goal isn't to anticipate the judgments of every person in the room that's just not realistic even if you're the most confident person in the world there will always be people who want to criticize you. 
It also helps to remember that everyone in the room has their own set of insecurities, none of them will judge you harder than you judge yourself because they already have enough to worry about, while you're scared of looking insecure they might be worried about coming off as annoying or lazy.

So when I say be objective I mean try to view yourself from the lens of one hypothetical person who isn't you if you can satisfy that person then you have nothing to worry about, but what's the point of knowing all this if objectivity isn't even possible well that isn't entirely true you can't be 100% objective but you can be like 80 or 75 percent partial objectivity is way better than none.

It still shifts your perspective builds confidence and relieve stress partial objectivity will still show you where you're going wrong, it really isn't important that you learn how to be completely objective right away but don't waste your time worrying about little biases here and there the simple fact that you're trying to look objectively at your life is often enough to change it.

Destructive Modesty:

People who struggle with confidence   frequently fail to see what they have to offer to the world, this is especially  common for new artists and entrepreneurs, that look out on  the thousands of professionals who carve their niche in the world and they   feel like they don't belong,

it seems like each one of them has a   special something that you just don't  
maybe you do have something you  want to say you're just too worried about what other people will think to say it in certain situations this kind of modesty isn't terrible it's always beneficial to keep yourself and your work in perspective, It helps you to manage expectations and relieve pressure it will help you stay humble in the face of failure.

But that same modesty will diminish your confidence it'll keep you from understanding your worth it's easy to look at all the other amazing people in your field and value what they have to offer but it's much harder to feel the same way about something you've created to build your confidence remember that whatever you create will be one-of-a-kind whether you like it or not even if you have the same idea as someone else the fact that it's yours will completely change how it turns out.

Just look at all the different companies out there that make the exact same product or the artists that experiment with an identical subject matter you may not think you have anything to offer the world but your unique perspective is plenty.

Prepare For Nightmares :

Lack of confidence often stems from a fear of the unknown, When you're thrown into a new situation you might feel out of control you're jumbled is old and confused which will destroy your self-esteem you might feel paralyzed simply because you don't know what's waiting on the other side.

Here take this example you're working an office job that you don't really like you always talk about how you want to pursue your dream in the arts but there aren't any openings , suddenly the ideal position opens up you could submit an application right away, yet you let the opportunity pass you instead of going for your dream, you stick with the same old office job why because it's easy and familiar you know what's expected of you, you know how to handle challenges yes you've always dreamed of having that position but you don't know if you can actually handle it you aren't confident enough to dive headfirst into the unknown luckily there's an easy trick to help you move past that fear.

You have to prepare for the worst situation that you can possibly think of, start by visualizing it step by step you can even act it out if you want to the most important part is that you experience your biggest nightmare way ahead of time after you've rehearsed your nightmare you should figure out how to stop it from happening there's nothing wrong with taking precautions, People often get scared that being cautious brings your fears to life but that isn't how it works, in fact, addressing your fears directly often stops them from impeding your performance so for example if you're worried about messing up your speech you should bring note cards with you, now that doesn't mean you're doomed to go blank in the middle of your presentation nine times out of ten simply having those note cards in your pocket will keep you from using them, in other words, taking precautions isn't just a solution when things go wrong it will also keep your nightmares from coming to life.

Defend Yourself :

Your lack of confidence might come from the people around you they might belittle your ideas or make you question your goals they can fill your head with so many doubts that your confidence just falls by the wayside it's tempting to take what other people say is fact especially if you have low self-esteem you might naturally assume that everyone knows what's best for you better than you do.

Well look let's say for example that a classmate shoots down one of your ideas for a presentation most people would believe them they look down on their own ideas and then feel hesitant to say anything else instead of taking a leadership role they just fade into the background all because someone didn't like their idea, but why does one person's opinion feel like such a big deal well when someone doesn't like what you're saying it doesn't seem like just one person you wonder if everyone else is thinking the same thing.

Oftentimes the spotlight effect will start to kick in you feel like you're the center of every bit of negative attention you start to imagine all the critical things that people might say to you and before long you can't even think about the project because you're too worried about being judged so how do you turn this situation around? how can someone else's criticisms build your confidence? instead of destroying it?

When someone insults your ideas or goals stand up for yourself if you liked an idea enough to say it out loud then it's worth defending, those doubtful voices in your head may not go away that easily but it's important that you actively believe in yourself this builds confidence by forcing you to value your own opinions more than other 
people's, yes constructive criticism is important sometimes you need other perspectives to see something clearly but most of the time your opinion matters far more than anyone else's so if you believe in something don't let anyone tear you down.

Hey thank you for reading psychotips and be sure to SUBSCRIBE OUR NEWSLETTER For more incredible content