We all love succeeding and wish to live productive, happy lives, but it seems that at almost every corner there's always someone trying to pull us down or make us feel bad every time we think we're just about to make it a brick wall drops in the way and we can't seem to break through it.
Life must be so unfair to us or is it, what if we were to embrace the concept for a moment that we are the ones who are getting in our way of reaching our goals the truth is you have so much more power over your life than you may be giving yourself credit for if you don't think so, you might want to consider these 8 signs you're subconsciously sabotaging yourself.
1/ You Struggle With Impostor Syndrome :
In 1978 psychologist Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Ames identified the behavioural pattern of believing that one has only stumbled into success and hasn't earned any of their achievements.
As impostor syndrome do you often feel that even though you got a perfect score in your test got hired for the job you applied for or achieved any other goal you had set your mind to it was just due to random luck and not actually because you deserved it we all occasionally accomplished things without trying very hard, but this is rare if you always think you're just getting lucky you might be suffering from impostor syndrome.
2/ You're Overly Self-Critical :
Are you always putting yourself down do you continuously focus on your flaws and issues rather than what you're proud of we all have what's called the negative bias which is meant to protect us from causing or experiencing future mishaps but more times than not this backfires and makes us feel bad about ourselves for unnecessary and or illogical reasons being humble is virtuous but continually being negative and feeling sorry for yourself will only hold you back three.
3/ You Procrastinate :
According to the dictionary, procrastination is the act or habit of delaying or putting off something that usually requires attention.
All of us have goals and finish lines we want to make whether it be having a career of being a famous movie star or winning a video game tournament but why is it we distract ourselves from making our dreams become realities in almost every case this is because of fear we're afraid of failing and would rather not suffer the embarrassment disappointment or any pain whatsoever that would come with it.
Sure it might be a little easier to watch a show or go scrolling on social media during your free time, but this probably isn't going to help achieve your dreams for you.
4/ Compare Yourself To Others :
you got a B+ on your quiz but your classmate Jorge got an A, your friend Stacey got complimented for her outfit, but you didn't what's odd is that you probably felt fine until you made either of those comparisons why is it that we spend so much time focusing on what others have rather than what we have.
this concept was first officially analyzed by social psychologists Leon Festinger in 1954 essentially he concluded that we compare to both reduce our uncertainty and help define ourselves, but unfortunately comparing isn't the best way to help motivate us in fact most of the time it just makes us feel like we're not good enough and the more we do it, the more we feel we never will be fine
5/ Your Life Is Disorganized :
Does everything always feel overwhelming and out of control we all go through times of complication, but if one attribute of your life is in disarray and not taken care of it will seep into more aspects of your life and thus could lead to even more procrastination.
It s a sign that you need to start prioritizing your time cleaning up the clutter and putting everything where it belongs.
6/ You Initiate Conflicts With Those You Love :
Are you somehow always getting into arguments with your family or your friends frequently fighting with you conflicts occurring in our lives one way or another is inevitable, but if it's somehow happening between you and your loved ones all the time there's a good chance that you subconsciously fear intimacy as human beings we are comfortable with what we find familiar and believe it or not if what we are familiar with is difficulty in turmoil then being at peace with those we love may actually make us feel a little uneasy drives us to ignite more fights to get back into our comfortable area of chaos other times it's because we fear rejection, so we begin a dispute before a companion has the chance to hurt us regardless this is very unhealthy behaviour and will only continue to sustain the sabotaging of our lives.
7/ You Lose Your Goals Shortly After You Achieve Them :
have you ever received something you wished for only to lose it shortly afterward did you finally get a relationship you wanted but broke up within a few months if this same problem keeps popping up time and time again in many areas of your life this may be due to your beliefs and self-talk on some core level you may not believe in yourself and think you are unworthy
8/ You Focus On Problems Rather Than Solutions :
as John Lennon once said there are no problems only solutions when something terrible happens, it may surprise you to hear that it's not a problem that is as long as you don't perceive it that way.
the truth is you have full rein to believe whether an incident that occurred is an issue or not if you find yourself complaining or curling up in a ball every time something you don't want happens this is without a doubt a sign you're sabotaging yourself.
Sure it might be a little easier to watch a show or go scrolling on social media during your free time, but this probably isn't going to help achieve your dreams for you.
4/ Compare Yourself To Others :
you got a B+ on your quiz but your classmate Jorge got an A, your friend Stacey got complimented for her outfit, but you didn't what's odd is that you probably felt fine until you made either of those comparisons why is it that we spend so much time focusing on what others have rather than what we have.
this concept was first officially analyzed by social psychologists Leon Festinger in 1954 essentially he concluded that we compare to both reduce our uncertainty and help define ourselves, but unfortunately comparing isn't the best way to help motivate us in fact most of the time it just makes us feel like we're not good enough and the more we do it, the more we feel we never will be fine
5/ Your Life Is Disorganized :
Does everything always feel overwhelming and out of control we all go through times of complication, but if one attribute of your life is in disarray and not taken care of it will seep into more aspects of your life and thus could lead to even more procrastination.
It s a sign that you need to start prioritizing your time cleaning up the clutter and putting everything where it belongs.
6/ You Initiate Conflicts With Those You Love :
Are you somehow always getting into arguments with your family or your friends frequently fighting with you conflicts occurring in our lives one way or another is inevitable, but if it's somehow happening between you and your loved ones all the time there's a good chance that you subconsciously fear intimacy as human beings we are comfortable with what we find familiar and believe it or not if what we are familiar with is difficulty in turmoil then being at peace with those we love may actually make us feel a little uneasy drives us to ignite more fights to get back into our comfortable area of chaos other times it's because we fear rejection, so we begin a dispute before a companion has the chance to hurt us regardless this is very unhealthy behaviour and will only continue to sustain the sabotaging of our lives.
7/ You Lose Your Goals Shortly After You Achieve Them :
have you ever received something you wished for only to lose it shortly afterward did you finally get a relationship you wanted but broke up within a few months if this same problem keeps popping up time and time again in many areas of your life this may be due to your beliefs and self-talk on some core level you may not believe in yourself and think you are unworthy
8/ You Focus On Problems Rather Than Solutions :
as John Lennon once said there are no problems only solutions when something terrible happens, it may surprise you to hear that it's not a problem that is as long as you don't perceive it that way.
the truth is you have full rein to believe whether an incident that occurred is an issue or not if you find yourself complaining or curling up in a ball every time something you don't want happens this is without a doubt a sign you're sabotaging yourself.
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